I didn’t grow up just eating meals at home. I grew up being fed with stories from the Ramayana, Mahabharata, Srimad Bhagavatam, and many other sources. In our family, values weren’t taught through strict instructions or warnings. They were passed down gently, through storytelling, layer by layer, like the folds of a soft blanket.
I never refrained from doing wrong out of fear of punishment or karma. I simply understood it shouldn’t be done. And that was enough.
The Stories That Shaped Me
As a little girl, I watched my grandmother, Patti, shed tears of joy and sorrow as she turned the pages of those ancient texts. Even today, it’s hard for me to read them in their original, chaste Tamil. But back then, I didn’t need to understand the words; I only had to look at her to know how deeply those stories moved her. And what they did to her, they slowly began to shape us too.
Our days never ended without a story, stories that taught us empathy, compassion, perseverance, love, forgiveness, and even leadership.
While the Ramayana felt easier to understand, the Mahabharata was a completely different world, filled with complex characters, intricate plots, and numerous branching tales. It was a story within a story within a story. And yet, Patti could string them all together so beautifully. She would often repeat them too, until they became etched in our hearts.
Looking back, I know where my empathy comes from. From those stories. From her voice. From those moonlit dinners on the terrace, where we sat in a circle, food served not on plates but directly into our palms. A small ball of curd rice, a spoonful of spicy vathakozhambu over it, and a bit of story to go with every bite.
One night, as we settled down for dinner, she said:
“You should never gossip or make quick judgments. Do you know what happened to Moor Patti—the old lady who sold buttermilk? It’s from one of the branching tales in the Mahabharata!”
We sat up eagerly.
“Tell us the story, Patti!”
And so, our Patti began:
The Moral of the Moor Patti
There once lived a noble king, known for his sincerity and devotion. After completing a sacred yagna, he personally invited learned sages and Vedic scholars to a grand feast. The food was prepared with utmost care. The atmosphere was one of reverence and joy.
Just as the feast began, a hungry eagle flew overhead, holding a snake in its claws. The snake, struggling in its final moments, released venom, some of which fell into a pot of kheer (a sweet dish) below. No one noticed.
The king, with devotion and respect, served the kheer to the sages. Tragically, they all died after consuming it.
The heavens were in shock. Chitragupta, the divine accountant of karma, was left confused. Who was to be blamed?
The eagle? It was only hunting.
The snake? It reacted in pain.
The cook? Unaware.
The king? Filled with love and intention.
Chitragupta turned to Lord Yama, the god of justice, for help. Yama smiled and said, “Observe the kingdom. The answer will reveal itself.”
Days passed. Disguised as a traveler, Chitragupta stopped at a small stall under a tree, run by an old woman selling buttermilk. As she prepared his drink, she asked where he was headed.
“To meet the king,” he replied.
The woman scoffed, “Why go to a murderer? He killed those sages. You might be next!”
And just like that, Chitragupta had his answer.
The karmic burden didn’t fall on the eagle, the snake, the cook, or even the king. It fell on the woman, who, without knowing the truth, passed judgment and spread it.
Her words carried a different kind of poison. One that stained the king’s name, intent, and honor.
When Patti ended the story, she looked at us and asked,
“Why do you think the curse fell on the old woman?”
We didn’t know then. But today, I do.
She didn’t witness the event. She didn’t know the facts. But she repeated the story anyway, passing judgment along with it. And that, sometimes, is how karma finds you, not through action, but through the careless words we toss into the world.
The Power of Silence
Gossip and judgment are like drops of venom, small, but powerful enough to destroy trust, reputations, even lives. And unlike physical wounds, the damage from careless words isn’t always visible. But it lingers. It echoes.
Being human means being mindful. It means pausing before forming an opinion, listening before speaking, and choosing truth over assumption.
Not everything we hear deserves to be repeated. Not every silence needs to be filled.
Sometimes, the most dangerous thing isn’t a weapon, but a whisper.
A whisper that starts with “I heard…” and ends with a tarnished soul.
So before we speak, let’s ask ourselves: Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
And let’s remember the Moor Patti. She didn’t mean harm. But harm was done.
Let’s be the kind of people who protect with our silence, not wound with our words. Be the ones who pause, reflect, and rise above the noise.Because in a world where everyone has something to say, the rarest strength lies in choosing silence, until the whole story is known.
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Namasthe Mam
“Words are like arrows:once released,they cannot be recalled”.Thank you mam for the wonderful message for the world to lead a happy and peaceful life.
The article *The Poisonous Whisper : Why Every Story should Not Be Told* written by Dr Gayathri Ramachandran Mam is so impactful.
*Power of Storytelling:* Stories serve as powerful tools for imparting values and morals. As teachers & Parents, it’s important to share our own personal life experiences with children, as it creates a great impact.
*Judgment and Gossip:* The story of Moor Patti illustrates the dangers of gossip and quick judgments. It highlights that spreading unverified information can have serious consequences, even if unintended.
This tale of Moor Paati teaches us to be away from gossip and stop interfering in other’s life matters.
*Mindfulness in Communication:*
The article urges mindfulness before speaking. As listeners, to pause and consider the truth, and think whether the words spoken are felt necessary for actions.
*Silence can sometimes be more powerful than words.*
*Reflection and Growth:* Through this article, the readers understand the importance of learning from our experiences and the stories of others.
This reflection enables personal and professional growth.
The article conveys the *essence of empathy, the careful use of language, and the value of being mindful* about what is spoken and the judgments we make.
*Thank you Mam, for weaving such profound insights together.*🩷
Dr. Gayathri Ramachandran’s article powerfully reminds us of the Mahabharata’s timeless lesson: ‘Gossip is a poison that harms the one who speaks it most of all.’ It’s a call to action to remember that ‘Speech is silver, but silence is golden”, when it comes to unwanted talks that is to be avoided .
The narrative style vividly depicts the good old days when grandma’s stories nourished both minds and hearts, much like how stomachs were filled.
Gossip is always poisonous.We have no right to opine without knowing the whole story. Powerful Message is conveyed through this article.
“GOSSIP IS LIKE A POISONOUS WHISPER THAT CAN DESTROY REPUTATIONS,RELATIONSHIPS AND TRUST”
“The poisonous whisper: why every story should not be told” is evident in how it conveys a powerful message about the consequences of irresponsible gossips.👌🏻👌🏻
The author beautifully weaves in references to the epic stories of Ramayana and Mahabaratha, highlighting how these tales, passed down through generations( like from”patti”- grandmother), teach valuable lessons.👍👍
The author also mentioned that learning from PATTI about the numerous branching tales which taught intrinsic worth values.👏👏
The use of personal connections added an emotional layer to the narrative.
Here, in this write-up, the author refers to a “Moor Patti” who passed unnecessary gossips and the consequences prevailed. 👌🏻👌🏻
Author has given and shared the communication dynamics which can significantly impact relationships and trust by avoiding gossips. 👏👏
A very nicely written and thought-provoking article on how our grandparents imparted value systems by narrating stories from the Ramayana and Mahabharata. These stories were never forced upon us, but shared at moments when we were relaxed—often during dinner or family gatherings. Growing up, our grandparents ensured quality time was spent together, telling such stories and offering valuable insights. Looking forward to more such enriching reflections.
Gayathri, thank you for bringing up this wonderful story and the moral behind it.
Yes, whether it is the current day or those golden Mahabharatham days, we people comfortably take one side of the story, because it is comparatively easier to just take it as it is, share it and move on. We think, “After all, who has the time to check whether he or she is speaking the truth? I am not the Judge, after all! Let me end it here.”
Sadly, it doesn’t end here. You will be judged by God or prabanjam, as you deem, for your thoughts, words, and deeds. That is why all our ancient scriptures insist on having good thoughts and words in the first place. It is easier said than practised. But nevertheless, we should strive to stick to it rigorously for improving our own karma. The Moor paati is the perfect example to this.
Very beautifully written. Important valuable message clearly conveyed.
Thanks, Dr. Gayathri.
Kudos.
“Not everything we hear needs to be repeated” very nice message mam. Got reminded of the story sessions i had with my grandfather , and also a small reflection on my parenting.
Namasthe Mam, “The Moral of the Moor Paati” is a reminder to all of us that “Words have the power, to both heal and hurt.” Thinking before we speak truly matters, because once words are spoken, they can’t be taken back. And judging someone without knowing the full truth is never right. Thank you once again for a lovely article Mam.
Namasthe Mam,
I don’t have any idea about the scriptures you mentioned Mam, but a lesson learnt. The article is written subtly. Thank you for passing the simple way to live not just to your family and friends but to the world. 🙏
Thank you.
Mam,Read your article. “The Poisonous Whisper” is beautifully layered — it works both as a timeless moral fable and as a subtle nudge to modern readers about the ethics of speech.
What stood out to me most was how you bridged scriptural storytelling with present-day relevance without making it feel preachy. The choice of the lesser-known Moor Patti episode was brilliant — it surprises the reader, yet fits perfectly with the cautionary theme.
Thank you for your words of appreciation.